Christianity is one of the religions that believed a couple should stay with each other till death do them apart regardless of the circumstances…But what if one of the partners is facing a threat to his or her life, should the victimized spouse still be in the marital home?
Faith Thompson shared her agony in one of the social media groups where she vocalized how she was coerced by church members to turn in her resignation letter because she divorced her husband.
‘I remember after my husband had physically abused me , I could not make it to church and my pastor called to find out the reason for my absence. I opened up to him and he prayed afterwards and this made me happy.
One of the service days in church, I was baffled when my pastor’s sermon depicted my life experience….he noted “why won’t your husband be beating you when you don’t submit”. My reaction towards this had me totally broken ..
Another time I cried out to a father in the faith when I almost died the second time, he said “ faith you just have to stay there because NO MARRIAGE, NO MINISTRY”…
When I finally summoned the courage to divorce after TEGA’s death, all hell was let loose!
I belonged to a group where I was heading a particular department and my mentors became my tormentors for no reason!
they began to raise serious dust against me.
They began to plan under ground without my knowledge to remove me from the position I was occupying, according to them, they can’t have a divorced woman leading married ministers .
I tried to complain about how I was being treated and was told if I don’t like the way things are going, I should resign. Right there, I was forced to resign and I wept in church.
I was isolated because I left an abusive marriage…
I got invited to minister in a program, handbills were already printed and when some ASSISTANT JESUS (mentors)saw the fliers , they contacted the man of God and told him he can’t let me minister on his pulpit because I am a divorcée.
My host called me and said he is sorry he can’t host me because my mentors no longer approve of me because I divorced my husband…. I WEPT..
How many will I count? The pain inflicted on me just because I chose to leave an abusive marriage.
Nobody wants to stay in an abusive relationship but the pain and mockery that mentors ,fathers and church folks lay on the DIVORCED is ungodly…
BUT I SURVIVED….
Do not blame anybody that stays in an abusive relationship because the church is the reason many stay back and endure but not anymore.”