Culture of Silence Among Women

Culture of silence is lauded in an African Society and have been told all my life to be imbibe this norm to be seen as a good girl and to also work harder to obey the feminine rules of being a nice girl. But overtime have discovered that good/nice girls don’t make history but Bold Girls do.

If you want to thrive in life as a lady, you have to be ready to scuffle against the societal stereotype and norms. So in a world where you are expected to be silent, choose to yell because the truth has to be told.

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Speaking out can be that healing process you need to be liberated from the shackles of that traumatized situation.

This makes me remember a training I attended recently and a question was asked

Have you ever been sexually assaulted?

The room was silent and there was no hope of anyone indicating an interest to sharing her experience, the funny thing is that the room was filled up with ladies.

To break the ice, I decided to be the sacrificial lamb of being the first person to share my experience of how I was sexually assaulted in a work space. Thank God for the self-defense that played out in that scenario, and It got me out of the awkward situation.

This actually gave others the courage to share their stories of sexual assault in their environments.

The session became more emotional and intriguing as more women voiced out their stories and how traumatizing it was.

All it took was just one person to take that leap of faith to share her story of sexual assault.

I was told prior to that day, the same question was asked and nobody stood up to answer the sensitive question and I completely understand because it takes a lot of courage to share an experience you are trying to heal from.

As Ladies, if we start speaking up about those sensitive issues in our lives, I believe we will be building a solid foundation for our daughters to thrive on in the future. Especially, voicing a part of our lives that will inspire the next generation.

The society encourages us as Women to inculcate the culture of silence to protect our family name


Silence is the enemy

Mercy Obot

Mercy Obot is a journalist, entrepreneur and an inspirational writer who takes delight in emboldening people through real life stories. She also loves reading, listening to cool music and making friends globally.

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